IF THAT’S TRUE, WAS HE REALLY CHEATING? Jenny Sanford Exclusive: Husband Refused to Be Faithful in Wedding Vows. “South Carolina first lady Jenny Sanford recalls how she made the ‘leap of faith’ to marry husband Gov. Mark Sanford even though the groom refused to promise to be faithful, insisting that the clause be removed from their wedding vows.”
UPDATE: Okay, I remember going to a wedding back in the ’70s where a couple read vows they’d written themselves, making clear that they weren’t sexually exclusive. And yet, not too many years later, she was royally unhappy with his philandering. Was that unfair?
My own $0.02: intellectually being receptive to the concept of an “open marriage” (or fantasizing about it) is one thing. Emotionally being able to handle it is another. My guess is that few men (and even fewer women) are able to handle actually sharing their partners with somebody else — especially if they themselves remained faithful.